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Thank you for sharing this piece Yelena! Always a good reminder about what submission can look like. 😊

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Yelena, so well said!!

Curious if you have an article about how wives could mend relationships after years of controlling, belittling behavior towards husbands? How to mend?

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I've heard lots of good things about the book Empowered Wife on this topic! I have not written about this yet, but I would start with an open, honest, repentant conversation with my husband about it and ask for his input on what areas he'd like to see improvement in. Men see things differently than we do! Focus on his strengths and stop keeping track of things you think he's done wrong. Notice, appreciate and thank him for every little thing he does to contribute to your family and household, even the things that you may think our basic or simple. Ah, so much to say on this topic - maybe an article needs to be written!

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Yes, I agree! This is an area I too am deeply committed and concerned about in today’s marriages. Even while I’d like to think I don’t engage in these mistakes, I know I have to some extent. So good! This needs to be talked about.

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Yes, agreed! i sometimes catch myself doing these things and have to nip it in the bud before it grows into something bigger. Do you think it has always been an issue or do you think it has to do with women being more educated/marrying later/etc? I did a poll on my IG stories asking if women struggled with nagging or mothering their husbands and the ones that said no were almost all women who married young (like between the ages of 17-20). In contrast, I am the oldest child of 10 and married at 29, so idk if that know it all mindset / need for control comes from age / experience / being the oldest child. Just some theories - curious to hear your thoughts?

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